By Michelle Andersen
My coach calls me ruthless sometimes and I usually laugh. What she means is that I will chop anything out of my way if it isn’t in alignment with my vision. People, places, and things – if they aren’t serving me, they have to go. Husband? Chop. Expensive clothes that I don’t feel are authentically me anymore? Chop. House I just bought twelve months ago and doesn’t feel good enough? Chop. It’s because I understand the intricate link between your environment and the impact it has on growth. If you want to grow a business, you are undoubtedly committed to growth as a person. If you are evolving as a person, then your environment will evolve, too. I would painfully experience what happens when you take this journey and the people in your circle aren’t on the ride early on in my business.
I didn’t start out ruthless as an entrepreneur. In fact, at first I was afraid to take leadership in my own company. In sharing the ‘fun’ of being in business I enrolled my dear friend into the fold and shared the profits with her. Despite that I was the owner, operator, sales person, and visionary of the brand, I was paying her way too much to take part in my plan. I justified it by looking at all the good work she did, but it was I who was taking the risks.
From my first coaching session ever, I learned that I was not owning my worth in this situation. Being the A+ student I am, I took this light bulb moment and changed the rules with my friend the next day. I said – going forward I will hire you as a contractor if you are willing, but we are no longer sharing 50/50. If you think we remained friends after that announcement, you will indeed be wrong.
I knew my friend would can me before I told her. But guess what? I could see the value of being selfish that day, and I knew it had to be done. It hurt, friends are valuable. But running a business isn’t about being nice or making other people happy. It’s about sharing your gift with the people who need it and having the systems in place that make that exchange viable, full of integrity, and profitable.
Turning into a real business person would mean my values would shift and the people around me would need to change. When I started valuing myself more, I would naturally uplift myself into circles where self-value was inherent.
Once I started to see the correlation between the inner work I was doing with coaches, councilors, and other practitioners to learn and grow and the way I would naturally attract different people, places, and things once I shifted into being a healthier version of myself, I would start amplifying my growth by shifting both at once.
Things in our environment, for example, our homes and our friends, mirror who we are being. They show us what we are willing to tolerate. They either uplift us or bring us down.
This was a hard lesson for me to embrace when I looked around and saw some things in my environment that would have to change drastically (yes, home and husband, as I mentioned). It took a ton of will power and energy to let go of these things, but I never did it alone.
Changing your environment so you can thrive as an entrepreneur is not something you need to do, or should even try to do, by yourself. I loaded up my calendar with all the accountability partners I needed to keep my momentum going upwards and guess what? Upward is where I went. Choosing to go in the right direction was sometimes lonely, upsetting, and expensive. The truth was a couldn’t afford not to make these changes once I realized what was holding me back.